As Mothers Day approaches in the month of May and the year 2010, a concept of absolute comprehension is beginning to shape, or, and at the very least, rear its ugly head. Well, maybe not so ugly, but, you’ll get the point here in a short bit.
Mothers, aunts, grandmothers, wives, girlfriends, and cousins will receive flowers, candy, perfume, new cars, a dog or cat, trips around the world, a day at the spa, cards designed by a crayola crayon, or family heirlooms. All of these tokens of love, admiration, respect, and honor at the expense of the male wallet and others who may not be a mother..
Sorry fellas, and others, rightfully so!!
Unless I am missing something… uh oh, wait a second, I am…
It is ‘Trust” that is missing. An emotional balance of courage and dedication bestowed upon a woman who will take charge and lead America back to moral and ethical standards and who will stand up for the values that have been a no nonsense factor in American history and family values. At least until recently.
Recently, I spoke to a woman who “wanted to set the record straight”. She is Ms. B (as per her request), age 31 and mother of two and wife of one, Latino/Mexican, catholic, a college graduate, and a proud American as is her entire family. She emphasized the “proud American” part.
We were talking about life as a woman and what being a woman really requires. The following conversation took place:
True American Values: ” You are always smiling, why?”
Ms. B: “I have a lot to be grateful for.”
TAV: “Like what?”
Ms. B: “First and foremost, my parents are still alive and married; this allows my children to benefit from the wisdom of their grandparents; my husband is a self employed plumber and a great, all around guy; I am an LVN and hopefully, soon I ‘ll be an RN; my children are in the 1st and 4th grade and doing well (I wish they were doing better, but C’s and B’s are good).”
TAV: “You almost sound like the perfect but not so perfect family. What has been your toughest struggle or downfall?”
Ms. B: “My parents first came to the United States 32 years ago. They became American citizens in 1990. I was the product of a dream come true. But being from Mexico was a huge downfall because we were looked at as foreigners and in some cases I heard the words “leech” and “illegal”. And we were, Mexicans, that is. But my family wanted soooo bad to be able to say that “we are proud Americans”. My children are being raised as Americans and to respect their country of America. Sure, learn the language of their heritage, but that will be their choice later on, not ours. In our home, it is English first. America first.”
TAV: “With all that is being talked about today with respect to “illegal immigration” and how Mexico and other Latin countries are pilfering the U.S., do you or any member of your family regret becoming US citizens?”
Ms. B: Absolutely not!! We understand why most Americans are mad and upset. We did everything legally, worked for all that we have, served in the US military. Nowadays, illegals are crossing the border just to appease the desire for adventure and criminal activity in whatever manner and disobey the laws of the land. They are not representative of my heritage and they just make matters worse for those of us, and there are many, who played by the rules and earned our citizenship. I support any and all efforts to rid the US of this illegal garbage. I can say that because I am of Mexican heritage. The ones who say they have a right to be here “illegally”, are the ones who have no respect for themselves or the US. They are not worthy.”
TAV: “Is there a difference between Mothers Day in Mexico and Mothers Day in the United States?”
Ms. B: “No!! But I will say that American mothers are much better appreciated and honored. In my family, we give equal appreciation to the fathers as well. Fathers seem to be forgotten more so than the mothers.. That is not good. My parents were a team.”
TAV: “Do you have any political preferences? How about prominent American women? American men?”
Ms. B: I do have preferences and believe it or not, my family is living the real American way. My brothers and I are Republican, my dad is Republican but mom is a Democrat (But she is about to change, I think). She calls Obama the antichrist. My hubby is Republican, but I think he is more independent. He too, hates Obama and calls him a thug. As for American women.. I have always admired Nancy Reagan and Margaret Thatcher of Great Britain. I actually liked Condoleeza Rice, but she seemed too hidden. Men?? Reagan and Tom Selleck!!! Please don’t ask!!”
TAV: Okay!! I won’t. Sounds like a “secret” dream or moment. You know, as far as Tom Selleck goes.
Ms. B: “Just a crush”…
TAV: “So what do you think of the current and past generation of young Latinos, especially the girls or women?
Ms. B: “I think they are being brainwashed into believing that they are due something just because they are who they are. The girls especially, they are hangin around with people who have no respect or self-respect. As for Latin boys, I see them as the downfall of who they really are or could be. I think the word is ignorance. Why do Mexicans believe they have a right to come to America and ignore American laws and regulations? I am embarrassed by their actions. Sadly, Mexican women might be better off if they stay away from some of the Mexican Men. I said some, not all.”
TAV: “Do you openly talk like this when you are around family or friends and Latinos?”
Ms. B: Yes!! I do! I feel obligated to help and to guide those people who are “lost”. And yes, I’ve been called a “traitor” by some, a few, but that gives me strength. Most of the time, people, especially other American Latinos, agree with my thoughts and ideas. Once, I was actually given an American flag by a Vietnam veteran who was Mexican and we both cried. My husband put the flag on the wall so that when you first walk in the house, it is seen.”
TAV: “Before I ask the next question, I want you to know that I am a strong supporter and proponent of women in America. Especially Republican and sometimes Independent women. How powerful do you think women in the U.S. could ultimately be? Do think women are progressing quicker now than in the past because of the issues and problems America is going through today?”
Ms. B: That is nice to know. A lot of men think it is “Machismo” to identify themselves as the superior sex. My husband, actually, all the men in my family think like you do. They say that a woman is the foundation of a family just as the man. That is really nice to know. As far as women being powerful? I have noticed a lot more women getting into politics and other leadership positions and like I mentioned earlier, Ms. Thatcher is a woman I adore. She is strong in so many ways. I hope I could be like her and Ms. Reagan or even Condoleeza Rice. Women are getting stronger. That’s good. If a woman was in the White House, I think bin Laden would have been caught, tortured, and killed. Women have that instinct. Nancy Pelosi has not only become an un American, she is what a female should not want to be. She is a disgusting representation of women. She is the ultimate mistake.”
TAV: “Thanks for your time. It’s been an honor and fun. You represent the American woman perfectly. Now all I need is to find someone like you, only a bit younger and who has an open mind. Even if they differ on some things, as long as they emulate your values.”
Ms. B: “I know a few Latino women who would love you”.
*****NOTE – Ms.B only did this as a friend, not as an activist or as an attention getter.
So, with Mothers Day 2010 a few days away, I can envision a day when a woman will be the leader of America. She will portray what Americans are missing. Moral and ethical values and standards. A return to family values.
But I also fear that, as generations progress through time, the younger women of today, tomorrow and recent, will fault the previous generations and blame their demise on everybody and anything before them because they lack the integrity and personal responsibility to fight for America as it was once known.
Either way, it will be an American woman who will revive what America once stood for and yearns for its return. A woman covered America in its glory many years ago, and today, we all sleep under its comfort. The American flag represents the American woman.
Happy Mothers Day!!
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